5. People I like.

  I liked topic of Maria Temnikova about people's characters. Firstly, a want to distinguish girl's and boy's characters. Don't be a child and say that you shouldn't differentiate girls and boys. It's maybe was true for me around 15 years ago. Additionally, I don't really believe in strong friendship between man and woman. That is why I want to share my visions on people's character separately.
 
  Being a gentleman I want to start with girls. In my opinion, girl should be nice, maybe not physically but in her behavior with boys and society ( I have heard about girls' angry relations in only girls society. I haven't seen such societies in reality, so I can't judge about it). The must be friendly, but not empty. And, sincerely, I loves listening girls talking about some stupid things. Maybe I just haven't had such very talkative girls who can talk about one pair of shoes for hours, that is why I like listening girls. It should be different, sometimes crazy (of course this kind of madness shouldn't grow into into real madness. Just little flashes of madness). And of course girls should be rather shy and DON'T WRITE FIRST. Maybe one of two times but not more. In my opinion, all relationships which were started by a girl are doomed. I'm serious. If not a boy initially started relations then not a boy will put to continue them. Girl also should respect a man ( of course I'm talking about decent boys). You can call me a conservative and you will be right. I consider a woman as a weak person who needs the support of a man. That is why she should be different and emotional, and he should be more stable and calm.

  Boys. Boys are also very difficult people. Firstly, I don't like people who really waste their time. I hate this. He should be able to argue, not every time but sometimes. I had one friend who agreed with me on every point, not only with me but also with many others. He created an image that he didn't have his own opinion and it's one of the worst things that can happen with a man. If a man wouldn't show his opinion ( it's impossible to agree with everyone) he would be an outsider. Maybe not a complete outsider, but hardly he would be respected by others. The other feature of character of a friend of mine is an ability to think deep, to be able to argue. The difference between to features written above is evident in answers that can be told from the first group ( I agree with you) and from the second one ( I don't know). Of course man can't know all things in the world and be sophisticated in all social issies, but he should be just interested in it. People without interest are empty. And one more thing: man should have a goal. Maybe very long-term goal but it should exist.

  So, and one more feature that should exist an every person, as I wrote in one of the previous posts, is activity. You can be very man or woman, complicated or simple, emotional or calm, but you should be active. Without it you are nothing. You may have wide internal world but if in the surface I don't show your ideas and desires in reality you will be nothing.
  Be active, read blogs.
  Thank you for attention.

19. Topics for the post #4.

1) Do you have a person, sport, band or something else that you are really fan of?
2) How do you think what is the crucial point of success: individual abilities or social links? Can success be built only using your own power, without any help?
3) Would you prefer to raise your children in a big city like Moscow or in some more quiet place like Moscow region or farther?

18. The Great Theoretician.

  I really like the 3-rd topic of Ivan Mozharov which is about roles of theoretical knowledge and real practice in human's devepolment. In this post I want share with my thoughts on this question.

A.S. (Ante Scriptum) In this post I have several times deviated from the topic. So, if you wouldn't like the first 3-4 sentences, it's better for you not to read the others. Because in them I wrote absolute bullshit. Nevertheless, because it is my post and should be interested in reading it for as many people as possible, I would say "ENJOY!".

  So, let's watch one particular person who are planning and analyzing his of her decisions and their consequences. Usually many people imagine situations were they have never been in and thinking how they will act themselves in such situations. They also trying to predict the behavior of other people involved in their situations. And the more they are thinking about it, the more concerned of their rightness they become. They are trying to persuade other people in their rightness and they do it rather successfully because these "other people" who have never been thinking about such situation feel themselves relatively stupid in comparison with these "Great Theoreticians" who are sitting near them and talking about very interesting and rather clever ideas of people's behaviour. And after persuasion of several such "conceptually weak" persons people become even more concerned about their rightness of their theories and in this moment they become someones like fanatics of their ideas. In these stage you can't persuade them in their self-deception. The only one thing which can do it is real experience. After several times of failing of their theories in reality it's become obvious that they were wrong and the reality is different from their models. They are getting depressed. Their desires are broken. Now they should transform their approach to the world and it is very difficult. ( Despite of the fact that many "Great Theoreticians" eventually understand treir falsity, there several people who became really famous with their ideas. For example, Sigmund Freid, with his concept of connetion of all human's thoughts with their sexual desires).

  But the situations of the "Great Thereoticians" appear quite rare. (if such mad guys really exist) The more usual situation is when human is just thinking what about he or she might do in different situations. He or she thinks that they know how they would behave themselves, but their real decisions might be absolutely different. People don't know themselves. They think they know, but it is wrong. The classical barriers which appear when human face the reality are fear, lust and uncertainty which is, actually, the consequence of the fear. That is why it is essentually important to know themselves, which they can do from being in different situation, in other words, from their experience. Only when you know patterns of your own behaviour and a lot of cases of other people's behaviour, you can very approximately predict decisions of other people. And when can predict the decisions of different people you can rule their decision. And then, you can do everything. You are powerful. You are "The Great Practician".

  Your logical commnt now could be like, "What was it?". But, I wrote it because several years ago I was somebody like stupid "The Great Theoretician". As most boys of 13-15 years old I was mad of girls. While all my friends were just chasing girls with flowers and stupid phrases like, "I love you. I can't live without you", I was concerned that no one, neither girls nor boys, want to have a some fanatic near them who is ready to die in your name. I thought it is just uninteresting to have such a slave. So, I didn't chase girls, just talk with them or look at them several times. I called it "Scientific Seduction". How absurdly. But this "approach" worked several times. I even conducted several experiments when I was in summer camp. My friend even started asking me for advice. Now I can say that it was really funny. But then I understood that this "scheme" worked only for some stupid, ugly girls who even write you first and so on, and that you should put much efforts to conquer your Queen. So I left my stupid theories (that was the most bright of them), but they sometimes still appear in my mind. Sometimes.
 
  In one song which my friend Gleb showed be several months ago this process of appearing of controversial thoughts in your mind, like chase or not to chase, is called "The War with the mind" (Война с головой). I really appreciated these song because it clearly describes the difficult process of making decisions which happens every day in everyone's mind.

  So, in answer to Ivan's question I answer "practical experience". You shouldn't think all the time. You should just do what you want and be yourself.

  "The war with the mind, but the last battle won't answer most questions".

  Thank you for attention. 

17. The Decline of the School Education.

   I decided to write a post on topic #1 of Irina Arkhipova "When you visited your school the last time? Write about your feelings". But I won't my feelings about school education that I came through, so I know reality of it.
  I was studying in the most famous "physical-mathematical" school in my city which was known for her genious students in the Soviet times. But the USSR crashed, and with it crashed many good schools in Russia. Best teachers, who had an opportunity, left Russia, others continued teaching, but good teachers were leaving school because of their age. But school still has a little number of good teachers who are trying to make good students.
  As in every society, there are people in my school, who just do their work without any enthusiasm, receive their salary and don't care about anything. This kind of a human was my form-master. She was old woman, who hadn't been teaching for about last 5 years and whose job was just into making students wear their uniform. But nobody wore. So she was just annoying us every day. We didn't like her and vice versa. But she was the first human who I met with when I came to school during my winter holidays. I really didn't want to meet her, but I needed because the month before she called my mother I said that she need my olympiad diploma, but it was in Moscow, so I gave it to her only went I returned home. Diploma was needed for application for some scholarship. But I asked her about that scholarship, she answered that she didn't know anything, no title, no date of application, no even who this scholarship was given by. I understood that I don't I wouldn't get any information from her and left her rather quickly.
   But I had one more teacher who I ought to visit. It was my economics teacher. She must be decribed in particular paragraph. Her main job was job in Voronezh State University, but during last 20 years she was conducting such an experiment which was called "economics group in physical-mathematical". This idea came to her and our headmaster (who is sitting in her chair since 1984), in early 90-s where good economists were really needed. According to her, all students from these groups were becoming very good economists and then were becoming very wealthy ( the causual-effect link was very doubtful, because many students from such groups had good mathematical knowledge, and then were entering well-known universities), but she continued to claim her impact on them was crucial in their career. But all people in school, except her, knew the reality, which was evident in last 5 years. People joined such groups only in one purpose: to save themselves from very hard physics cources and have an ability to do nothing in school.
   So I met her. She made me tell them, people who were teaching in such a group this year, about NES and all. What could talk with them about if they even didn't know what is Marginal costs ot rate of unemployment? And these people consider themselves as future good economists. And such a situation was happening in all groups in our school. People were coming to high school only in one purpose: to prepare for their final exams. They didn't care about other subjects because grades in their graduate certificates could't influence on their university entrance. And, what is the most regretful thing, teachers of these "other" subjects admit this state of affairs. And, eventually, students after graduation from school know only 3 or 4 subjects, which were required for entrance. And one more disaster is in the way how they know them. They know standards of writing these exams. I think, if student were given another exams which required the same knowledge, but had another structure, only a half of them did them correctly.
   As I heard, Russian government during last year are writing a law, which will require money for school education. Most Russians are absolutely against this law because they consider education as state obligation. But, in my opinion, if such a law will attach only high school, it will have only consequences because, as I said, in the high school students bother only about their exams and don't receives knowledge on other subjects. As was written in one myth from "Myths of economics" by Sergei Guriev, if people pay for their education, then they consider it useful. So, may be possibility of paid high school education is not a big disaster.
   So, in answer to question about feeling after visiting my school I can say that I felt purposelessness of students, futility of teachers' attempts to teach people who were not intrested in studying, and decay of system of education. And this is the best school in rather big city.
   And it's sad.