Even every teenager 12-15 years old, especially girls, can't stop dreaming about opposite sex. They are trying to hide it from friends or parents, but it is visibly and there is no shame in it. In girls' dreams the man should calm, strong and often without much feellings. He should be inaccessible to be the one, who all girls are dreaming about. There is a similar situatoin in boys' mind: they prefer to think about untouchable girls, whom they will never get an opportunity to talk with. In this age people are rather stipud and can't understand the happiness of warm relations with another sex. And when you meet a kind and opened person, who want to communicate with you, you are starting to compare him with that fictional perfect character, who might don't exist in reality, and making a choise to continue searching for this ideal and reject all attempts of this 'dweeb' to communicate. So, teenagers of both sexes trying to look as much serious and inaccessible as they can.
Imagine, a boy and a girl who are interesred in each other. They want to talk, but they still can't stop being serious. So, in this part of story, as in all stories about relationships between two sexes, boy should make the first step, because he is the future man. In process of communication teenagers usually starting to understand the reality of relationships between them. They are becoming more and more opened. They already don't think about their behavior, about their manner of speech. They are becoming who they are. They are just falling in love. And then they both are making confession of love - this should be a logical happy end of the story. But usually this end happens only in fairytales. In reality in these love games there are a winner and a loser. The loser is becoming so opened that winner is starting to compare that week opened person with perfect character and make a choice that this well-known kind friend is not the person, whom he/she have been dreaming about all life. The winner leaves the loser in search of ideal and loser becomes more closed and offended by all another sex. And it becomes bad circle of life. And it continues untill person gets older and more clever and understands that all he/she needs is real love, not an ephemeral ideal.
Imagine, a boy and a girl who are interesred in each other. They want to talk, but they still can't stop being serious. So, in this part of story, as in all stories about relationships between two sexes, boy should make the first step, because he is the future man. In process of communication teenagers usually starting to understand the reality of relationships between them. They are becoming more and more opened. They already don't think about their behavior, about their manner of speech. They are becoming who they are. They are just falling in love. And then they both are making confession of love - this should be a logical happy end of the story. But usually this end happens only in fairytales. In reality in these love games there are a winner and a loser. The loser is becoming so opened that winner is starting to compare that week opened person with perfect character and make a choice that this well-known kind friend is not the person, whom he/she have been dreaming about all life. The winner leaves the loser in search of ideal and loser becomes more closed and offended by all another sex. And it becomes bad circle of life. And it continues untill person gets older and more clever and understands that all he/she needs is real love, not an ephemeral ideal.
Yes, I had many of these same thoughts when I was younger. It's easy to get cynical will some people treat dating like shopping, always looking for something better. All I can say is hang in there! I noticed that as people get older there's less game playing, and eventually they start looking for different things, so that the "loser" who is being open and honest eventually is viewed by someone as "perfect."
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